Almost all of us have heard of at least one traumatic childbirth horror story. It could be an experience of our own mothers, relatives, and friends. Sometimes, strangers would be compelled to tell their own childbirth experience to an expecting mother on her second or third trimester. However, this does not always affect the expecting mother’s confidence positively.
As they say, even the most calm and relaxed pregnant woman could get anxious whenever she thinks about how her due date is nearing. A lot of them would try on planning how the childbirth will happen, but usually these plans go down the drain once the due date and labor pains come. But of course, there are ways on how to minimize and eventually kill the nerve-wracking anxiety and fears of childbirth. The following are useful information and tips to help an expecting mother get through them:
Talk to your doctor. The person who can answer your childbirth queries accurately would be your doctor. Ask him or her everything you want to know about the whole process of childbirth and his or her answers should be trusted. If your views together have significant differences, you can always a new doctor for second opinions or for the childbirth process itself.
Trust the hospital staff: they know what they are doing. You may fear that they are not going to handle you and your baby the right way, but they are as credible as your doctor. It took them many years of studies and experiences before they got the right to be there with you, so it would benefit you, the baby, and them if you would not jeopardize the childbirth operation.
Ask if the hospital has 24-hour anesthesia or other pain control alternatives. The most common fear of childbirth is the pain that labor may induce to the mother. The pain will vary depending on the stage of labor you are in, and it is rare that the mother experiences little to no pain at all. However, you can always ask the hospital if they have 24-hour anesthesia. If they do, you can opt for that. If not, there are other medicinal alternatives that do not have extreme side effects on you and the baby.
Do not fear an epidural. The mother on the operating table sometimes gets the jitters when she undergoes an epidural, because the feeling of numbness and a headache can be surprising for her. But do not worry, because the side effects do not get more than that, and the slight discomfort would be worth the painless childbirth.
Understand the necessity of C-section. The risk of needing a C-section is low, but you should trust the doctor if he or she recommends one. It is mostly needed when you have a big baby, your baby is not positioned normally, or your cervix is not dilated as much as needed. Confirm that the C-section is really necessary, and just get through it.
Pooping during childbirth is a good sign. Do not be embarrassed: it actually means that you do not need a C-section and that the baby is almost out. You have done great pushing and you and your baby are gonna be both okay. Also, the hospital staff members do not mind because pooping is a common occurrence with childbirth.
Try to relax your mind as much as possible. You may deem it impossible to completely relax your mind, but it would not hurt to do so. It is proven that tension makes the labor pains worse, and it would help to ease your mind and think positively about the situation.
Take childbirth classes with your spouse. Childbirth classes can be a great support group and can also be nice for more childbirth preparation. The facilitators may teach you how to minimize labor pains through walking/pacing/leaning exercises, the use of birthing balls, water therapy, and massages from your spouse or another caregiver. They will also likely be teaching you how to do patterned breathing. Take note that making a lot of noise during the delivery is common and okay, but be sure to do more than that.
Pack your bags as early as two weeks before the due date. Better be safe than ready. Your due date is only an estimation of when you will deliver the baby, so be prepared when it comes earlier or later than expected. Preparing your clothes and other things in a bag, while you are constantly monitored by at least one person, should be enough preparation for your big day.